How to find your own sense of spirituality


Wanting to feel spiritual but not knowing where to start is a strange place to be in. 

Often, you don’t know exactly what it is you’re looking for (enlightenment? Inner peace? Communication with guides? All the above?!), let alone where to start, what to do, or how to do it.

It’s really easy to follow spiritual trends in a kind of ‘fake it till you make it’ approach – which I say with absolute zero judgement.

Spirituality (especially online) has become a kind of clique, just like when you were a teenager. It’s totally normal to want to do what the cool kids are doing and hope it rubs off on you, too. Plus, when you don’t know where to start, you’re going to look around at what everyone else is doing and try doing that. It’s completely normal!

But the thing is, there is no ‘one thing suits all’ with spirituality.

It’s completely unique and personal to you.

Some things that resonate strongly with others may do nothing for you. It doesn’t mean you’re not spiritual, it just means that tool or practice doesn’t gel with you. It might in the future, or it might not – that’s fine.

You want to find and develop your own sense of spirituality and explore that. You’ll find you have deeper and more expansive breakthroughs once you find your ‘thing’, and that’s perfect – that’s what you want.

The funny thing is that a lot of spiritual practices don’t seem ‘spiritual’ on the surface, but with the right person they become a place for genuine and lasting spiritual growth.

An example of this is gardening. You might hear this and think of pulling weeds, but another person sees a relationship with the earth, the elements, seeds, growth and potential, struggle and survival, preservation of the future, a passing on of traditions, a connection with ancestors and of course, nourishment of our body.

Spirituality isn’t limited to crystals and incense.

Crystals are pretty and incense smells nice (and I have both), but they may not resonate with everyone.

And on that note, you don’t actually need any spiritual tools at all, although they can be helpful. You might swear by using a pendulum for a long while before realising you don’t need it anymore.

You might need certain music or scents to meditate with before feeling comfortable settling into meditation whenever and wherever.

You might seek out signs from the universe and wonder what they all mean before learning how to simply ask and listen.

So how do you connect with your own spirituality?

First off, you’re already spiritual. You are already connected to the universe, or the source, or God or whatever you want to call it.

So all you’re really trying to do is become aware of it, and develop a conscious connection to it. Would that be fair to say?

Here’s how you can do that:

  • Experience the part of you that is pure consciousness. When you’re meditating and you experience a moment of absolute stillness, that is you as pure consciousness. Everything else; your thoughts, experiences as a person, your labels (woman, man, young, old, etc.), your beliefs and judgements are simply a filter that your consciousness observes and experiences the world through. In those moments of stillness, you’ve removed the filter.

  • Find a practice (or a tool) that makes you feel like you’re connecting to something bigger than yourself. Carrying out your purpose is a great way to connect to that feeling, but it can also be yoga (all branches), prayer, rituals, chanting, meditating, tarot, healing – anything. Use your intuition to find what resonates with you; simply let yourself be drawn to whatever you’re being drawn to.

  • In those moments of connectedness and stillness, communicate. Say thank you. Express gratitude and love. Ask questions. Ask for advice or guidance.

And then listen (or see, or feel, or ‘know’).

And say thank you.

And repeat as often as desired.

This is your spirituality. Enjoy it!

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